So, a Confession
Posted on 24. Jan, 2009 by Deb in Just...Boys, The Game of Golf, The Girl
So, I mentioned the other day that I had done a short stint on Match.Com. I say short because I lasted about 3 weeks, went on several coffee / drink dates, went on some regular dates, and then decided to hide my profile. I’m not opposed to dating, but when I looked at the amount of time I need to give to things that are “have tos” like kids (to school and back, doctors appointments, homework), the house (repair central), and work (which is still a passion)- and my “want tos” like my PMP school, the gym, All Things Girl, Pink Nighties, chilling out with the kids and golf – the sheer amount of time it takes is akin taking a beating. If something is productive, I will give every waking moment to it. Unproductive stuff just irritates the shit out of me.
It came down to this: would I rather play the “match” game or would I rather work on my golf game. No matter how I look at it, golf wins.
When I am playing golf, on the driving range, reading golf books, taking golf lessons, practicing my putting, practicing chipping balls onto a green or buying golf clothes I am focused and happy and content. What started as a need to get a hobby (and do something besides work) has become something I can be passionate about. No matter how badly I play, there is always one amazing drive, one laugh at my self moment, one smooth little putt. I can tune out everything stressful in my life for the 3 minutes I am standing behind a ball with a club in my hand, even if I know things will still be there when I am finished with my time with my clubs.
Today is when I knew that the instinct of golf over trying to meet new men to date was right for me at this particular moment in my life: It’s in the 30’s outside with a warm-up to the mid-40s today. I had planned on playing 9-holes today with my regular golfing partner and 18-holes tomorrow with a group of folks we hang out with (we ended up with 6 of us playing Sunday if they don’t chicken out). And I chose to go buy UnderArmour Cold Weather Gear instead of canceling. Because I enjoy it that much. It’s worth spending a little money to be comfortable and to play instead of staying home.
This is the girl who has traveled 800+ miles to have dinner with a man I was seeing even though we only had time in our long-distance-overworked lives to have form 6 PM to 9 AM to be together. I like dating and the things that come along with it. I love Golf THAT much.
It isn’t that I’m not willing to meet someone new or have a date with someone that I know already…I am just saying that when it comes to my time, Golf brings me Happiness and dealing with Match.Com was a time-suck.
So, yeah. Golf. I have never – in my entire life – been athletic enough to play a sport well til now. It really does float my boat.