Blogging and Blogging “lite”
Posted on 21. Jan, 2009 by Deb in Just.....Me
Sometimes, I feel like I do nothing but do “lite” blogging. It isn’t that the blogs don’t have content and aren’t interesting in some ways, at least I hope they fit that bill, but I don’t write about what’s really filling up my head.
Pretty much, I wake up happy each day. I am blessed in many ways. It isn’t about things or a specific person beyond myself – it’s purely about just being. I’m happy. There are more things I want to do some days and I get frustrated when I don’t get as much done as I’d like, but it doesn’t get done. That’s life, that’s responsibilities, etc. Some days, I do accomplish everything on my “to do” list. That are fabulous days.
It took me a long time to become satisfied with my life. Last year, one of my words was forgiveness, and the issue wasn’t that I held grudges against others, it was that I was hard on MYSELF and didn’t cut myself any slack – ever. I didn’t play the blame game or the martyr game, it was just one of those things – you beat yourself up for small mistakes, etc. We won’t talk about the big mistakes.
In embracing my main focus for 2009, which is “constructive”, I have discovered that feeling of being content with so many areas of my life. Of course, I want to lose some weight. Of course I want to advance my career. Of course I want to do a better job at networking and keeping in touch with old friends. I want MORE from myself. I think I can do more with my life. It isn’t that I am complacent, and I’m not going to be satisfied with the status quo, but I am content.
I do, at times, become frustrated, when I have something on my mind but no one to talk to about it. I am so very thankful for my close friends, but years ago, when the issues were bedtimes and things like that, I could blog about it and get a broad range of feedback. When your kids get older, you just can’t. Their friends google you and you don’t talk about the hard parts. I know I miss out on what I know would be wonderful advice, but that is also the life we now live in. Google is a love/hate relationship.
The kid thing will eventually work out, but it’s a huge stress factor in my life at this very moment.
I recently tried a short stint on Match. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but I was trying to expand my available network of attempting to find someone i’d be happy to go to dinner with or a movie. I had a few dates, but I also discovered that a portion of the guys I began conversing with beyond Match would google me the moment they had my name, and dig into what they thought was everything about me. A way to my heart is certainly not to ask me what led me to start Pink Nighties or to ask if I could advise them on becoming a consulting and clue them in on how I get my clients. Or to try and friend me on Facebook or MySpace before we’ve even met. Those are NETWORKING tools for me, with folks I know face to face and with folks that I come in contact with via Twitter, blogs, and All Things Girl. I did decide, by the way, to pull my profile on Match for a bit. With work and school and other things, it’s too much of a time hog.
I’m not shallow here, by any mans, but this isn’t the whole enchilada. Blogging lite isn’t all bad. It’s like Beer. If I’m going to drink beer, I like a nice Corona with a lime or an Amber Ale from a Microbrewery. But often, I get a Bud Lite or a Michelob Ultra because it’s just a little less calories. But if you think you know all about me simply because you read my blog, just know that you are missing several puzzle pieces. And gee, did I just compare myself to beer?